What Characteristics Do You Look For?...

At speech class yesterday one of our "pop question" was "What characteristics do you look for in your future husband/wife?" We had to name five, and for some it was hard, but for others...it was a piece of cake! Alot of the people we saying "They don't have to be good looking, it would be a plus, but if they weren't that's fine" or, "I'm not really into looks". Well whenever something like that was said, one of the guys would be like, "Oh c'mon, I know you care about the looks, don't be modest"...so when my time came, I told the truth.

My five characteristics were:

1-He has to be a Christian, first and foremost.

2-He can't be too emotional, because I'm not a very emotional person.

3-He has to be very patient and understanding to be married to me.

4-He has to be strong (well built, physically fit, etc...)

5- He has to be...SMOKIN' HOT!

After I said that, the whole room started to laugh, and Jake was like "Finally, someone tells the truth!". It's true, looks aren't everything, and I know that his heart is so much more important than his looks, but still...it's would be nice.

Sweetest Song EVER!...

Awkward...

Okay, I am sure that at least once in your life, you have had a horribly awkward moment. A moment where you wish you were anywhere but here, or that you could rewind time and then bypass the whole thing. Well, I'm not asking you to share (unless you feel obliged to), but I'm going to share one of my most awkward moments with you...

About three years back I was going to my friend's birthday party. She lives about 40 minutes away, so my mom met her dad and older brother about half way, I got in their car, and we were off. In the car, we were just chatting about how family was, and how it's so weird how fast time goes by, and that I was getting so much older. Remember it's only my friend's dad, brother, and I in the car, and no radio playing...radio ALWAYS cuts down on the stress level. Anyway, about half way to her house, while we're still talking about getting older, her brother asks how old I am. I tell him, and then he replies with, "Oh, then just there's just a few more years, and we can get married". What?!! That caught me by such surprise (he wasn't joking either), I was speechless. First of all, I'm waaay to young to be married, and second, I've never even thought of him in that way. I've known this family for, I think it's going on 14 years, so that would be like marrying my brother...AWKWARD!!!

Emotionally Attached...

I think that one of the hardest things about being a girl and waiting for that "perfect guy" to come along, is not falling for the first guy that shows interest in you. I always told myself that I would never let my heart be taken by someone, unless I knew that that person was worth it. I would never, EVER become emotionally attached to someone until they showed the same feelings toward me. I convinced myself that I would be strong and not fully give in to the feelings that I felt, and that I would not be hurt if it didn't work out in the end. Oh how foolish my young heart is! I'm a teenage girl, of course I'm going to give into those feelings and become somewhat attached to that person. But, since I'm a teenage girl, I'm also going to be blinded by the nice things he says, and the things he does, and how funny, and cute, and sweet he is. I'm not going to remember my friends advice, or heed the warning signs, because I'm too caught up in this, and in the end, I do get hurt.

It has taken me sometime to realize this, and even longer to fully embrace it (I'm still kind of working on it). I didn't want to admit to myself that I was wrong, and that I let my heart go too far, and that my emotions got too mixed up. I wanted to believe that he felt the same way towards me that I felt towards him. I told myself that even though he didn't actually verbalize it, he still liked me...but it wasn't true.

I heard once that people call it "falling" in love, because when you're falling, you can't really stop yourself, you don't really know whats going on, and when you hit the ground it hurts. I think that's a funny way to look at it, but don't really agree. I think that when the one God has set aside for you comes along, that your "fall" will be graceful and you wont hit the ground because your one catch you. Right now, in this "waiting area" I'm thankful that I have a Lord and Savior that, when I "fall" for the wrong guy, will catch me in His loving arms.

What Should He Look Like?...

Hmmm, this is always a fun conversation topic, "What "requirements" should your future guy have"? My friends and I sometimes talk about what we want our future husband to look like. It's fun to hear what they look for. The other day my friend and I were talking about this, and she told me that she was going to tell my guy about all my "requirements". I am a little picky but here is the description of my "perfect guy". He has to be:

Tall (this is a must because I am a tall-ish person)
Brown (or dark) hair
Blue or brown eyes (preferably blue)
Good build (not too skinny or fat, and not overly buff...that's kinda weird...he'll look like the Hulk)
A GREAT smile
Here comes the picky part, he has to be photogenic. Or at least a little. In my family, pictures are always being taken, there is always a camera in someones hand, so photogenic would be nice.

He should look something like this:

...I'm not serious...but it wouldn't hurt.

Now years down the line, just watch me marry someone that doesn't reach ANY of my "requirements"...or maybe ALL of them. Only God knows (and thank goodness for that).

The Issuse Of Insecurity...

Insecurity is one on my biggest battles. I struggle with it so often, and still seem to be losing. My thought is that, being at girl, we (or at least I am) are programmed to be insecure. Some of my insecurity issues (I am really critical of myself) are: clothing, hair, face (blemishes, dryness, eyebrows, makeup, etc...), ears (mine stick out like an elf...so I don't pull my hair much), and my smile (I said I was critical). I have just recently noticed that I have a crooked smile. The right side of my bottom lip goes down farther than the left side. I asked my mom if she ever noticed it, and she said "Oh yeah, but don't even try to straighten it out, because then it wont be your smile". Thanks mom.


Anyway, I have lots of insecurity issues that cloud my mind when I'm out. Wheather it be at church, with friends, or at a party, but then I "remeber to forget". I say that because when I remember that the people around me like me for me, not for my clothes, looks, etc... I forget about my insecurity. Also, I wouldn't really want friends that looked only on the outside apperance. I'd want the ones that looked past that. It's like they say, "Dont judge a book by it's cover", or as I say "a girl by her makeup".

My View...

Okay, I know I asked this question like forever ago, and just now am I giving you my view on H.S relationships.

To me, H.S. relationships are fine, as long at both people are mature enough to be in a relationship. I've seen my share of clingy relationships, touchy-feely relationships, and also mature relationships.

There is nothing more annoying than seeing a girl that is so extremely clingy to her guy, that even if he's your friend, you feel weird talking to him because you're afraid she's gonna get mad at you. I cannot stand that, it drives me CRAZY!!

What about touchy-feely relationships? I feel so awkward when I'm around a guy and girl that cant keep their hands off each other. I mean come on people, have a little self-control!! I hate being in that situation, I just want to be like "Ahem, excuse me but could you keep your hands to yourself...for like two seconds, maybe?".

In my eyes mature relationships are sweetest. They know the boundaries of physical contact, they don't make others feel awkward, and they just have this realness to them. What I mean by "realness" is that they have respect for each other and the ones around them. The girl doesn't get all protective when her guy is talking to another girl. Same with the guy he's not like "Why were you talking to him? What were you saying?". Also, they remember that people, other than the gf or bf, do exist. They're not super infatuated with each other that they forget their friends. That is so important because if it so happens that they break up, they still have the strong bond of friendship with others who still love them no matter what.